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"It's not fair!"

That's often preceeded or followed by "Why?!?"

We're not the first to wonder.

I'm not the first to wonder.

Little things to bigger things, we all have asked or wondered.


"Why? Why do I have cancer? It's not fair!"

"Why did I lose my job when I've worked so hard but the slacker on her cell phone got a raise? It's not fair."

"It's not fair. Why, WHY did my husband abandon me?"

"Why does my loved one struggle with mental illness? They used to be so different. I miss them. It's not fair."

"Why did my best friend pass away? She didn't deserve to die! It's not fair!!!"

There are so many questions that we have.

The questions are very normal.

We are human and not God.

We perceive things from only a small, but very real, portion of the whole, entirety of a big picture that we can't see.

Does it make it hurt any less?

  • No

Does it change the fact that circumstances that are more challenging, or even disabling, can impact us in ways that can turn our world upside down?

  • Nope

Losing a job can mean things such as eviction, depression, loss of money for basic needs such as groceries.

Losing your spouse can bring upon insecurity, anxiety, fear about how you will provide for yourself and family, depression and even loss of basic needs such a as shelter.

Losing your parent or sibling can cause turmoil in the remaining family, difficulty performing necessary and fundamental day-to-day tasks due to a psychological standstill as you try to cope with or find some kind of "new normal".

We can call so many things "unfair".

By many standards, we are justified in saying so.

However, when we approach it from a Biblical, faith-based view, we see our Victor waiting in the corner.

We have the promises that we will have trouble but that these are "momentary afflictions".

We have a promise that joy comes in the morning. (God's timing is not our timing. So, this is often not exactly the next morning --- some people are disappointed when this isn't a literal translation of time.)

We have the grand promise that He never leaves OR forsakes us.

He sees your pain.

He sees my pain.

There is not one of us that goes unnoticed.

Let's think about it like this:

We have

  • Jesus' tears - he wept over his friend Lazarus as well as for the sorrow of Mary and

  • Our present tears - in Psalm 56, it says, You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book."

  • Our future tears - we're not going to cry forever. It may seem like we will. It might seem like the pain will never end. Revelation 21:4 says, "He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away."

I think what we often call "unfairness" is the equivalent to injustice. We feel that a "just" response to our trial or situation would be a level playing field or a level outcome for all.

This isn't the case, as we are all created unique and separate and for distinct purposes hand-crafted and personally DESIGNED by God.

This is broken down for us in Romans 9.

Verses 14 and 15 it says, "Is God unjust? Not at all!

For He says to Moses, 'I will have mercy on whom I have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I have compassion.'"

Taking it further, Romans 9:16 says,

"It does not, therefore, depend on human desire or effort, but on God’s mercy."

Let's keep going with that.

Romans 9:20-21 says,

"Who are you, a human being, to talk back to God? Shall what is formed say to the one who formed it, ‘Why did you make me like this?'

Does not the potter have the right to make out of the same lump of clay some pottery for special purposes and some for common use?"

Finally, Romans 9:23 says,

"What if He did this to make the riches of His glory known to the objects of His mercy, whom He prepared in advance for glory?"

Esther was put in the situation where she had to decide, whether "fair" or not, if she was going to take a stand against evil, despite the risk and despite what was already being done to her people.

Before Esther made her decision to pray, fast and step out, she was reminded by Mordecai, "Who knows whether you have not come to the kingdom for such a time as this?"

We are completely incapable of seeing the full picture of what God is doing.

Trying to guess at it or imagine what we deserve will lead us to dissilusionment.

Depending on other people, even our spouses or Pastors, to be as reliable and dependable as God - taking their promises as words that would never be broken - only leads to dejection, distrust, disappointment when we find them to be faulty or untrue or broken.

They're human too. We all are - and it limits us.

  • Our version of "fairness" is based on our human frailty, limits and boundaries.

  • God's version of "fairness" only is obtained after we have surmounted this world and set our spiritual feet into the next, the promise of Heaven, our attainable rest, race-finish, and glory.

We can't see it now.

Like a tapestry being formed one thread at a time, we only currently see the vibrant, dull or mediocre fiber either encasing us or entangling us.

We have to open these shaky hands and surrender these fears and the inability to control or accurately predict what may come our way - understanding that the scale of justice is not ours to balance.

Keep trusting,

Sarah Jane

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